Why I Have the Center to Self Reliance
Wednesday morning I picked my two granddaughters up to take them to the Renaissance Montesori school. Mary, my older nine year old was crying because her younger sister, Isabella, five, had awakened during the night, went into their parent's bedroom and had gone to sleep. Mary didn't like when she woke up to find her younger sister in bed with her parents. Because of my training in Redirecting Children's Behavior, on the way to school I told the girls I would like to give them a little history lesson about how it was when I was a little girl.
I used myself as an example that I was the oldest and when my younger sister came into the world, I felt dethroned from being the only child and was very upset. The fortunate thing for her is that she could express how she felt, I couldn't. Mary held the stuffed toy in the car, made the decision that she wanted to be dropped off at school last so she could have more time in the car with me.
After we dropped Isabella off at her school, Mary talked some more about how she felt, spoke with her mother on the phone, and by the time we were a few miles from school, Mary was looking in the mirror and telling herself what she loved about herself. Letting children feel their feelings, giving them a little extra special time to have quality time with an adult, helping them see their value as a person, all adds up to children feel good about themselves. Building self esteem is so important. She got out of the car knowing that it was normal to feel upset and she could let her feelings go more easily when she was able to express them. Feelings buried alive, never die.
I want more children to have parents who build self esteem in children. I assured Mary her parents, and her parent's parents did not have manuals on how to handle daily situations. Parents make mistakes, but they LOVE their children. Mary was "responsible" for me learning about Redirecting Children's Behavior. She is why I got involved in this wonderful personal growth work. Thanks Mary for giving me a purpose for my life!
Love,
Grandma Willo
I used myself as an example that I was the oldest and when my younger sister came into the world, I felt dethroned from being the only child and was very upset. The fortunate thing for her is that she could express how she felt, I couldn't. Mary held the stuffed toy in the car, made the decision that she wanted to be dropped off at school last so she could have more time in the car with me.
After we dropped Isabella off at her school, Mary talked some more about how she felt, spoke with her mother on the phone, and by the time we were a few miles from school, Mary was looking in the mirror and telling herself what she loved about herself. Letting children feel their feelings, giving them a little extra special time to have quality time with an adult, helping them see their value as a person, all adds up to children feel good about themselves. Building self esteem is so important. She got out of the car knowing that it was normal to feel upset and she could let her feelings go more easily when she was able to express them. Feelings buried alive, never die.
I want more children to have parents who build self esteem in children. I assured Mary her parents, and her parent's parents did not have manuals on how to handle daily situations. Parents make mistakes, but they LOVE their children. Mary was "responsible" for me learning about Redirecting Children's Behavior. She is why I got involved in this wonderful personal growth work. Thanks Mary for giving me a purpose for my life!
Love,
Grandma Willo
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